About three months ago, I started to casually seeing this guy. Things quickly progressed from hanging out and getting to know each other to being physical. When we first exchanged numbers, he told me that he recently broke things off with his girlfriend because she was moving out of the country.
Things were fine and then he suddenly started avoiding me. After about two weeks of not being able to get a hold of him, he responded saying he’d been busy. He came out and said that his ex-girlfriend’s plans to move changed and she would be staying local. I cut him right there and said I had fun, I wished him well and told him I’d see him around. He wished me the same and offered to take me to lunch to “explain.”
He confirmed everything I thought: he was happier with her than alone, he never meant to hurt me, I’m a good person, we should be friends. I was very upset. But what really hurt me was the fact that he told me that he used the sex we had to help him to suppress the feelings he had for her. He didn’t say any of this in a mean-spirited fashion nor did he treat me poorly during the lunch (he picked me up and he paid for everything). I liked this guy because of how he treated me and I loved being around him. It was my first ‘adult’ relationship. How do I rebuild my self-esteem and trust men? Please help me!
CREDIT: B. Scott
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