Building a relationship may be hard to do but the hard work pays off when you finally find the person you were meant to be with. Relationships take hard work from both people from the beginning.
When you have finally found the right person and you are ready to commit to them only, you have a lot of work ahead of you in order to make it work. It’s not easy but the reward for all your hard work is priceless. Both people need to be committed to making the relationship work from the beginning.
If you don’t think you will be able to stick with the commitment then don’t start it. Sometimes people feel pressured or pushed into their decision to commit but that should be an individual decision. Only you know when you are ready. Making the commitment is something that should not be taken lightly.
Before you make that commitment you need to make sure that this is what you want. What happens about a year from now? Can you see yourself with this person for the rest of your life? Can you imagine growing old with them? If you are sure that is what you want, then it is time to let them know.
First and foremost, if you are not sure how they feel, don’t make your announcement in public. Putting them on the spot will not only embarrass them but it will humiliate you when they say no. You will want to plan an evening just the two of you where you can talk without worrying about someone listening in. Plan an evening at home. Order some take out or cook a big meal. Rent some movies and after dinner talk it over with them. Let them know that your feelings have changed and now you would like to take the relationship up to the next level. Being committed to one person is a big step to take but if you love someone it is well worth the sacrifice.
Next thing to do is listen to them. You’ve said what you needed to say, now listen to them. Maybe they have some problems or doubts about being in a committing relationship. You need to listen to them and maybe you can work through that with them. If not you may not be able to continue with the relationship like you wanted or hoped for.
Maybe now is not the time and you need to just be patient and wait. If you love this person then waiting shouldn’t be a problem. Sometimes hearing about commitment can scare someone and after a few days of thinking about it they are not so overwhelmed by the idea. It’s a good idea to announce your commitment slowly so you don’t make them feel like they are being pushed.
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